How to beat an addiction – or a craving!

How to beat an addiction – or a craving!

Everyone wants to do that, right? You can do it.

In my clinical practice I’ve used a tool a lot that people report helps them a great deal.

If you think of a craving and realize it is growing stronger – even compelling you to use (the food, the substance, whatever), remind yourself that it happens in steps. Hard to believe and even harder to actually realize you can beat it if you follow the method I’m sharing here. However, once you have tried it and can see that it helps and that it often stops the unwanted behavior altogether, I think you’ll use it often.

When a craving strikes, remember that it will grow stronger and stronger – you already know that. Imagine that it is a very steep, rocky, perilous mountain slope that you feel you have to go up, that you have no other choice because the craving is strong and it is already upon you.

It will climb and climb upwards in you until you can’t stand it any longer and you medicate yourself so you can fall back down into a medicated state. It may not be a good state, nor a lasting one, but it’s one that you are familiar with. The fall may bloody or hurt you, make you ashamed, obese, hate yourself or even OD, but you are on familiar ground once again.

However, if you will just keep with the climb and let it get to the peak, that intensity will only last for a little while. The peak of every mountain is quite small and short in comparison to everything that came before it – that’s why it’s called the peak.

You can then take a deep breath and be very proud of yourself.

Go ahead and walk (or ski) down the other side of the mountain.

Once you look over the side of the ugly peak, you will see the other side is a much more gentle slope, with beautiful views of what lies ahead. You will not have to “sweat it”, hold on for dear life, get cut, bruised or killed by a fall because this side’s gentle downward slope has grass, meadows, maybe flowers, streams, perhaps a lake, and nice nature-minded people along the way to share some time with.

You walk down with pride, accomplishment and good feelings about yourself that you haven’t felt for a very long time.

You absolutely can do it. Imagine what your life will be like when you prove this to yourself.

What have you got to lose? Everything? Then go for it.

Be kind to yourself. Therapy helps.
                                                                                       Sharon Valentino – Valentino Therapy, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (51746), MA, CHT, LMFT, Psychotherapist, Masters Counseling Psychology IMG_0067

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Fight Your Addiction With Better Eating.

Food is a drug.

This is well-known. What we put into our bodies affects how we think, act, learn, love.

A friend sent me these two recommended books for solid diet advice for recovering addicts – and those who need to recover. You know who you are. We all do. We hope the best for you.

In the meantime, please consider these useful tools: “The Eating for Recovery: The Essential Nutrition Plan to Reverse the Physical Damage of Alcoholism” by Molly Siple and “Seven Weeks to Sobriety: The Proven Program to Fight Alcoholism through Nutrition” by Joan Mathews Larson.

If you are interested, they can readily be found on the net. Their principles apply to other addictive problems as well.

Be kind to yourself. Therapy helps.
Sharon Valentino – Valentino Therapy, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (51746), MA, CHT, LMFT, Psychotherapist, Masters Counseling Psychology                                                                                                            Stress, Anxiety, Addiction SpecialistRelationships, Depression, PTSD, Pain
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